Sadly, many of us are brought up and made to feel like we are not good enough because we are girls. As a child and a teenager I always wished I was born a male because they had so much more freedom to do what they wanted, and weren’t judged or restricted because of their gender.
Growing up in a honour obsessed society I always felt like I was a danger to my family and was viewed as such by them, that anything I could do, any decisions that I made as a girl would have great and profoundly negative impacts on my family as well as on other girls in the community. The worst thing was not knowing exactly what COULD cause these problems…the things that could cause dishonour were so arbitrary that you always felt like you couldn’t be safe in your own body, in your own mind lest you slip up and accidentally do something ‘inappropriate” or “wrong”. You had to live on guard, from yourself and from situations and people. Sometimes I felt that just breathing was enough to cause issues- and it did because I was surrounded by people who valued their honour more than the lives and well being of their daughters.
It’s not fair, ethical, right or moral to place so much pressure on our girls. Being a girl is not a sin or a crime. She is not responsible for your honour. Only YOU are, but by placing your honour on the shoulders of little girls who grow up to hide their beauty in order to survive and not disappoint, or even be killed is the most cowardly thing anyone could do to another human being let alone a child.
Being a girl is one of the most beautiful gifts you could be given. I wish more girls, especially those born in the developing world who get told every day in a million ways that they are not good enough, could learn self love and the power and beauty of being a girl.